Raised by patterns.
Shaped by experience. Still unlearning.
I’m endlessly curious about people, the stories we inherit, the ones we tell ourselves, and how those stories quietly shape who we become. I’m equally fascinated by the bigger questions: consciousness, meaning, space, the universe, and the fairly bizarre fact that any of us are here at all. My thinking has been shaped by people like Alan Watts, Christopher Hitchens, Carl Jung, Carl Sagan, Jean-Paul Sartre and Aldous Huxley, alongside an interest in shamanic traditions and the different ways humans have tried to make sense of existence.
I was born and raised in the UK, have travelled extensively, and now call Canada home. Travel has probably reinforced a lot of what already interests me how people make meaning, how culture shapes identity, and how differently a life can be understood depending on where you’re standing. Outside the therapy room, you’ll usually find me travelling, watching football, listening to music, reading, writing, or disappearing down some rabbit hole about humans or the cosmos. I believe play matters far more than we tend to give it credit for, that wonder and awe are worth protecting, and that meaning is never completely settled it’s something we get to keep questioning, negotiating and creating as our lives change.
That curiosity is probably the biggest thing I bring into my work. I don’t believe therapy should require you to fit yourself into a particular model; the work should adapt to the person sitting in front of me. I’ll be curious with you, challenge you when it feels useful, and take seriously the possibility that there is always more than one way to understand what’s happening. I believe agency can be found in more places than we sometimes realize, and that everyone deserves the opportunity to build a life that feels meaningful on their own terms.
How we work together:
Therapy with me is collaborative, active, and built around curiosity. I’m not interested in forcing your experience into a theory or deciding who you are from across the room. We start with what is actually happening in your life and get interested in it together the stories you’ve inherited, the patterns that keep repeating, the beliefs you’ve absorbed, the ways you protect yourself, and the places where you may have more choice than it currently feels like you do.
I’ll listen, but I won’t only listen. I’ll ask questions, offer perspective, notice patterns, and challenge you when I think challenge might be useful. Humour matters too. Some of the hardest things in life can be held with seriousness without making every conversation heavy. Sometimes laughter creates exactly enough space to see something differently, loosen a story that has become too rigid, or remember that being human is allowed to be absurd.
A lot of the work involves becoming more aware of the stories and voices shaping your life. We might ask, Whose voice is this? Is this something you actually believe, or something written into your story by family, culture, relationships, expectations, or an earlier version of you? I sometimes think of these influences as a kind of ghost writer voices that continue authoring parts of our lives long after we have forgotten who handed us the script. Therapy can be a place to notice what has been written for you, decide what still fits, and begin taking back some authorship.
We may also look at choices through a growth versus decay lens. Not every difficult choice is good for us, and not every comfortable choice is bad for us. The question becomes: Does this move me toward a life that feels more alive, expansive, connected and intentional or does it slowly make my world smaller? Agency often appears in these seemingly small moments.
Sometimes the work is about understanding where something came from. Sometimes it is about making room for an experience you have spent years trying not to feel. Sometimes it is about learning to respond differently, taking a risk, setting a boundary, grieving something, or questioning a story that has been treated as fact for far too long. Insight matters, but I’m interested in what happens when that insight begins to change the way you actually live.
My work draws from Narrative and Existential Therapy, EMDR, parts work, attachment-based approaches, CBT, and somatic and mindfulness practices. I don’t see any of these as a template you need to fit yourself into. They are different ways of looking, understanding, and working, and we use what is useful for you. Therapy can be serious without being sterile, challenging without being punitive, and meaningful without pretending there is one correct way to be human.